Your day to day life is full of worries. Your head does not stop thinking about everything that has happened throughout the day. You are looking for solutions to situations that are in the past that can not be modified. “And if I had done this or that …” Or if not for that, you’re worried about what’s next. You can not stop thinking about what you need to do after reading this article.
What will happen after you finish eating. And what will happen tomorrow and the day after tomorrow and then … And in a month! The point is that you spend the day turning your head, seeing threats in your past and your future, looking for solutions to risks that may not even exist … What can we do to stop worrying? Cognitive-behavioral therapy gives us some ideas about … Continue reading!
“Worry does not eliminate the pain of tomorrow, but it takes away the strength of today.”
-Corrie ten Boom-
What is generalized anxiety?
Generalized anxiety is characterized by the person who is constantly restless or worried about areas of everyday life. That is, if he anticipates constantly and does it thinking that during the course of the day something will turn. You may think, without real reason for this, that you will have financial difficulties, that you will be sent away from work or that your children will be recovering.
But not only that. Everyday chores, such as cleaning or repairing the house or car, generate anxiety, demands and concern . In addition, past fears and mistakes can stir up in your head. Thus, one enters into a cycle of negative thoughts and constantly seeks solutions to problems, but without putting any of them into operation.
When the person suffers from generalized anxiety, restlessness or impatience may appear as well as muscle tension. Also it is characteristic the difficulty of maintaining the concentration or leave the mind blank. Sleep disturbances appear , either to get you to sleep, to keep you or to be refreshing. They also get more tired and irritated.
As you can imagine, for these people it is difficult to relax and they fear those situations where they believe that their anxiety will increase. So what do they do? They avoid them, so their nerves momentarily calm down. The bad thing is that over time, they will tolerate less and less anxiety and avoid bad situations , so that their life gets more altered.
What happens to my internal dialogue in generalized anxiety?
The point is that these people perceive most situations as dangerous. They interpret reality in a damaging way constantly, drawing negative conclusions even though there is no evidence that anything is going to be bad.
Cognitive tendencies, irrational beliefs, and automatic thoughts play an important role throughout this process. These people often follow negative stimuli, interpret information in a negative way for them, and analyze current situations based on past ones that have been bad.
“Can you not quench the anxieties engraved in the brain, and with a sweet antidote of oblivion remove the dangerous matter weighing upon the heart from its oppressed bosom?”
In addition, there are a number of beliefs about how the world should function that do not fit reality . But not only that: a series of thoughts appear in front of the situations about which we do not question and are not functional for us.
Therefore, it is necessary to learn to identify them. Once we have done this, we may wonder what evidence we have for and against them. That is, to seek the information that is coherent or incoherent with them. In this way, we can seek more realistic interpretations of reality, in order to avoid the temptation to think catastrophically.
Learn to relax and make decisions!
The truth is that learning to locate and modify our thoughts is somewhat complex and requires the help of a good psychologist so that it can be carried out effectively. But it is not enough to work our own thoughts; it is necessary to control anxiety with other approaches.
“The ability to withstand anxiety is important for the individual’s own achievement and for his or her conquest of the environment. Self-realization can only be achieved in spite of emotional shocks. This points to the constructive use of anxiety. ”
I also suggest that you learn to relax , to get muscle tension and physiological activation lessened. One good way to do this is to practice abdominal breathing, which we can use in any situation once we have acquired the ability. Another technique that may be interesting is progressive muscle relaxation.
In addition, we have commented that these people are dedicated to look for possible solutions in your head but do not get to perform any. Therefore, it is also good that they learn to make decisions and implement the solutions they have thought , even if they are not the most appropriate, and without punishment for it. The question is to experiment until you find the correct … Err is human!
As we have said, avoiding those situations is not the strategy that benefits us most. So it ‘s important to stop running away from it. If we get nervous, we can put into practice the relaxation strategies we have acquired. The change to overcome this malaise is not easy, but with the help of a qualified profes